They say that when you fall you're supposed to get up, dust yourself off, and walk on ignoring the people who are laughing because they're glad they aren't you (In German known as "schadenfreude: Happiness at the misfortune of others" [pronounced: shaw-den-froy-duh]). This idea applies to physically falling down, having mud/water splashed on your clothes by a passing car going through puddles too fast, losing your job, getting in a car accident that you are responsible for, or getting a paper stuck to your back that says "Kick Me." This does not apply to love (even though you do figuratively "fall" into it). As Dane Cook says, "When you don't have love, it's like there's a party going on, and everybody was invited, except for you. And you just happened to be walking by that house in the rain... (sigh) 'I wasn't invited to this party.'" It's something people are envious of - something they see and think "I want me a lil' piece o dat!" (And, yes, I did imagine a gangster saying that) So, there is no "schadenfreude" in love. Love also has some pretty awesome benefits: great health care, road-side assistance, free heating, and free counseling and forgiveness. Because, in love, you're not alone. (I'm about to get very symbolic, so bear with me - and, yes it may sound philosophical, but I swear I came up with it on my own) This great quest of life may be just a thin rickety bridge over lava - you have to keep moving, you can't turn back, looking up helps - but with someone to love you forget all of that (may as well be walking through a meadow...or a corn field in some cases). All you can think to do is stare into their eyes and wonder "What is their favorite color again?" which may seem like a pointless question, but you'll wear it tomorrow just to see that smile. With this distraction, you can live without fear - fear of failure or disappointment because that person beside you will always love you and accept you. If a board breaks and you fall, you know that you aren't going to be falling alone because that person was beside you the whole time (and boards on rickety bridges are typically built horizontally...) and they'll never leave you - they would follow you into the dark or whatever symbolic imagery of hard times you can think of.
So, I wrote a list of some things to remember:
1. Falling in love is nothing like falling into a hole
2. Everyone wants and needs to be loved and needed by others
3. Love makes you blind to the pointless cares in life and let's you live with freedom and passion
4. You are never alone
5. Somebody loves you
6. Love comes with more than companionship
7. Love will never leave you
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